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It Gets Better

This morning I was sitting here sipping a cup of tea and I realized that I don’t feel MS-y anymore. Like, my morning didn’t consist of my eyes and arms shaking from fatigue or me feeling like I was made out of lead every time I tried to move my body or get out of bed. I also realized how little I actually think about having MS on a day to day basis.

Maybe that is a small thing to someone who has not experienced chronic illness but it’s huge to me. It’s not just about my physical health improving, though it did. Mentally I feel in control of my life again. Emotionally, I feel balanced. I can (cautiously) dream of a future without an overwhelming sense of fear, sadness, or grief.

When I think back on the last 4 years only one word can describe the first year in it’s entirety and most of the second: hell. It was a living hell.

Some of you are living that hell right now and my heart goes out to you because I will never forget how awful it was. But I’m not writing to rehash those painful times or tell you that my life is perfect and symptom-free (it’s not) I’m writing because today is a milestone. A day that I actually feel good and positive about my life with MS and I want you all to know that it does get better.

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9/5/11

this is an email i wrote on  9/5/11. one year ago. in a few days i will have been diagnosed for a year. seems like a lifetime. 

so i guess i should begin with how a MS dx was put on the table. i have been having back and shoulder problems for almost a year and i have had tingling in my legs for about 6 months. recently, i reinjured myself at work and because i now have tingling in my hand, the docs ordered a MRI. thats when this all began. the MRI goes on at length about the multiple lesions in my cervical spine and one in my lumbar spine (“confirm MS dx clinically” “further workup advised”). i was referred to a neuro who examined me and then ordered more MRIs that included ones of my brain.

i just finished those on thursday and i am now stuck in a waiting game to find out what the neuro thinks. my uncle is a nurse practitioner in a chronic pain clinic and when he found out about what was going on he called me and wanted to know about the MRI findings. he said he expected them to find brain lesions as well. he apoligized and said he has worked with many patients with MS and given that i have multiple spinal lesions he was fairly sure i would have them in my brain as well.

i am hoping that this will be something else. even when my neuro wouldn’t speculate as to the cause of the lesions, only saying that MS was the most common reason for someone my age to have spinal cord lesions i didn’t lose hope. it was hard to hear it from my uncle, knowing that he does have a lot of experience working with patients who have MS, but i still was not thinking it could be true. however, yesterday i went to visit my mom (a critical care nurse for 30 years) and we were talking about the MRIs and i mentioned that my uncle thought they would find brain lesions. she quietly said, “i do too, honey.” she averted her eyes. at the time we were eating brunch at a restaurant and i instantly lost my appetite. it was SO hard to hear that from my mom.

last week was probably one of the hardest ones of my life. in addition to going through marathons of MRI’s, i was basically ambushed by the drs in the occupational health clinic at work (original MRI was through workers comp). i had two doctors going on at length about how my symptoms were from MS, asking me questions about how i felt, telling me they were going to drop me as a patient because i have MS (even though my neuro has not even confirmed this yet…how do they know? i guess MS patients cannot also have a work-related injury??). i felt completely demoralized after leaving the office. an hour of two doctors interrogating me, teaming up and working off each other to make me feel as awful as they possibly could about my future. i went back up to my unit and cried in the break room…and i am NOT a “crier.” i almost never cry.

if i am really honest with myself then i have to admit that i have had some vague symptoms for quite some time. i just thought that was me. i was seeing a chiropracter and he discovered that i have a positive tandem romberg test (balance issues). at the time, he was trying to convince me that i had this because of a gluten intolerance. but i suppose i can now safely attribute that to the spinal lesions. i have always blamed the chiro for the tingling i feel in my legs. he adjusted me and then later that afternoon i first felt tingling in my legs. now i wonder if the spinal lesions were the culprit and it was just coincidence that it started after the chiro session.

the neuro cautioned me against hot baths, etc. and in direct defiance of what she said, after my appointment i came home and immediately ran a hot bath. when i got out i was shaky and didn’t feel well. same thing happened to me this weekend. i went up to the mountains and had to shut the a/c off when i was driving up a steep incline. by the time i got to the top i was shaky again, and by the end of the day i was completely and totally exhausted. that was yesterday. i slept about 10 hours last night and have done nothing but veg on the couch all day and drink 4 cups of caffienated tea and i am still ready to fall asleep. i also have been having such a hard time with memory. if i answer the phone at work and the caller gives me thier name, by the time they tell me who they would like to talk to i have forgotten it. maybe its just stress from everything going on, but it seems like it gets worse everyday.

i am meeting with the neuro on thursday and i feel like the closer it gets, the harder it is to think about anything else. anytime i am quiet, my mind wanders to MS. the countdown is agonizing. gah! my final year of school…seriously?!

anyways, sorry for going on forever…i’m just trying to manage all of this and get through the week without falling apart.

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just the start

one year ago, k. and i boarded a plane to puerto vallarta. i didn’t know it then, but my life would change on that trip. i came down with shingles, which caused a MS flare, which caused chronic tingling in my legs that took 6 months to go away. eventually, it led to my diagnosis.

i had no idea what i was walking into when i got on that plane. quite literally and figuratively, i was leaving behind my life as i knew it. the cascade of events that would follow changed me.

forever.

this is just the start of an entire year of anniversaries.

since that spring break trip (my first and only in a shamefully L O N G college career) i can feel the difference in the me before diagnosis and the me after. last semester feels like a dream. it is the bridge between the two me’s–the months where i transitioned between them. it’s not that i don’t believe in the same things that i did before, or that i can no longer relate to the hopes and dreams that i had before diagnosis. it’s just that life in general feels different.

last semester was 4 months of sadness and fear and loss. and now i’m past the initial shock and i no longer have tingling legs (although i still do get tingling occasionally when walking). but i haven’t lost that sense that sometime soon the other shoe will drop. i am learning that i will probably always feel that way.

maybe next year i can learn to be ok with that.

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